Supporting a Senior through the Loss of a Spouse
This is a writing sample from Scripted writer Terri Mitchell
Has a senior that you love lost their spouse or significant other lately? The shock and grief associated with losing a lifelong partner can have debilitating health effects on those left behind. Adapting to new life circumstances can be easier for seniors that have the support and compassion of family and friends.
Offer support to a senior who has lost their spouse with the following strategies:
Provide Purpose
A sense of purpose can be a compelling reason to get up and move on. Help someone that you love who is struggling with loss find their purpose- whatever this may be. Make an effort to facilitate them in doing what makes them happy, engaged, and fulfilled, from adopting a pet or dating to getting a job or moving.
Curb Unnecessary Changes
A death brings about many changes, including some unwelcome ones. Curb and avoid any unnecessary changes during this difficult, unpredictable time. Chaos and disorder can add anxiety to grief and loss; this can be debilitating for the mental welfare of any senior.
Avoid Major Decisions
Try not to put your loved one in a position of making major life decisions as they cope and mourn a death. Furthermore, simple queries and polite questions can be overwhelming and confusing to an older person who is struggling with grief and stress. Keep the conversation light and pleasant- and any questions to a minimum right now.
Let Them Grieve
Please do not minimize the sadness and pain that your friend or loved one is going through. Instead, validate their feelings and understand that there will be good days and bad ones. By acknowledging their sadness, they may feel heard and understood, which can be powerfully cathartic during times of stress and struggle. Be that attentive and willing ear when they simply want to talk.
Help Them Take Care of Themselves
Try to facilitate self-care for your senior. Offer assistance, provide direction, and give them the privacy and space to be comfortable. Hygiene is important and has a direct impact on overall health and wellbeing. Keep an eye on how your loved one is sleeping and try to create a calm, relaxing environment for them.
Help someone move forward after losing a spouse or partner; use these tips to help them get through the grieving process. Encourage them to see their providers and practitioners, as needed during this time. Provide support to your loved one but also allow them the privacy and space to grieve.
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